I chose to title this monthly wellness series “Fully Human” because even as we celebrate ourselves as Royals and acknowledge our gifts and strengths, as we fight for our rights and advocate for our communities, it is essential that we give ourselves space to be fully human. To feel our pain and heal our wounds. To take breaks from the business of life. To connect with ourselves and learn to love and be loved.
For Black people, claiming our humanity is not only personal, it is also political. For so long, many of us have fallen into the trap of respectability politics. Without question, we adopted our parents’ and grandparents’ beliefs that if we acted right, we would be treated right. If we were just strong enough, smart enough, funny enough, beautiful enough, we would be accepted by the world and be seen as worthy of love. In this process, we have lost sight of the importance of vulnerability and the ability to ask for help and acknowledge when we struggle.
It is essential that we give ourselves space to be fully human. To feel our pain and heal our wounds. To take breaks from the business of life. To connect with ourselves and learn to love and be loved.
Proving to the world that we are magical and can do amazing things has sometimes caused harm to ourselves and our relationships. We may have neglected our bodies and physical health to work longer hours to prove that we were just as good or better than our co-workers. We may have struggled silently with depression and anxiety believing that Black people don’t struggle with mental illness, and therapy is just for white people. We may have caused problems in our relationships because we didn’t know how to open up and be vulnerable with the very person we wanted to love us the most.
My hope is that this series allows you to both celebrate your magic and greatness and enables you to acknowledge your humanity. There will be articles on how to navigate the stress of the world we live in, managing mental illness, vulnerability, self-care and cultivating healthy relationships. My aim is that these monthly articles will help you to grow, learn, improve your relationships, and care for and love yourself fully.